"I think I'm struggling": What should you do?
After reading my blog for a while, I do hope I help some of you relate and find peace, for yourselves or your loved ones. If you're suffering the same, it is amazing that you acknowledge that. It is considered a very big step ahead. If you're still lost, it's okay. Take your time. Sit down and think about it.
Capricorn or not, all of us can relate to the above statement. Most of the time we just want to keep shit to ourselves and not burden anyone. That is how I feel, ALL THE TIME. This is also one of the reasons why I reached out to seek help with my mental health. I am affecting people around me, and of course, I am affecting myself, too much. If you're starting to develop symptoms, and you are really suffering, what's the first step? Or should I say the second? You already took a big first step, by 1. Acknowledging you're not feeling the best. Please do remember that it's okay. It's the 21st century, everyone is evolving everyone is stressed out, everyone has issues, you're not alone. Maybe we are the people who just need an extra push to feel better.
2. Talk to someone. You don't need someone to tell you what to do. Sometimes you just need someone who listens. Someone who listens to you when you try to put your thoughts into words, and "see" it coming out from your mouth. However, do understand, what kind of social context you're in. Growing up in a typical Chinese household/community where people have literally 0 knowledge of mental health, please do understand that sometimes not everyone understands what you're feeling, not everyone knows how to deal with someone coming forward to them and talking about mental health, acknowledge this as well. Just tell them if you want advice or you want them to just listen. I believed your loved ones or the listener you chose is happy enough to try and understand.
3. Understand what's happening. Start by understanding more about your problems, get to know them. Why are you feeling this way? Does anything trigger you? Is there anything you can change to make yourself feel better? For me, social media is hella toxic. I enjoy sharing, but I hate the negativity that it brings me (sometimes it is not other people, it is me, social media is not a place for weak people like me). If someone, something, triggers you, makes you unhappy, or you think following too much content is making your life miserable. Do it, unfollow, block, do whatever you want, take care of yourself like you should. I don't give a damn about what you think about me, I'm unhappy and I'm blocking. You have the right to avoid and get rid of the things that are giving you problems. Cleanse your life and your soul. There are also times where there's nothing that triggers you, it just happens. That's me, most of the time. Breathe. Try the suggestions I mentioned, in this post. Try your best to explore and learn how to control.
4. Enjoy the journey of exploring self-care. Start doing things YOU love for yourself or explore things that you always wanted to try. If you tried, and you don't enjoy them, it's fine, at least now you know there's something that you dislike doing. I personally tried a lot of different things throughout my journey, I picked up things that I always loved doing and has been doing it since. I read a book, and it turns into more books. I started with this blog, it went from 7 views to now a thousand views. It took me 3 months to explore and found things I love. Definitely, I found things that I dislike doing as well.
Try these steps and learn to control them. Still not feeling good?
5. Seek for professional help. This is where your extra push comes in. (this is where MY extra push comes in). My symptoms are severe and out of control and I acknowledge that I need more help than that. If you're like me, great job on acknowledging it, don't freak out don't worry, IT'S OKAY. Think of it this way, we are all different and we are all good at something, and mental health it just not your thing. You're not good at it and you're not knowledgable enough to deal with your current problems. Therefore, seek help from a professional. Ironically, who cares if you're a psychology student like me. The best I can do is to acknowledge that I need help (kudos to me and you!). I'm not a certified professional, that's why I needed help, and I got my extra push, more knowledge, and more help on learning how to control. You're not trying to get rid of something that's normal and human, you're just on a journey learning how to control it.
It is not your fault that you're not feeling your best, but it is your responsibility to take care of yourself, physically and mentally. Don't point fingers, don't blame. Look forward, and see what you can do to feel good again. I understand that we all have problems, we all have bad incidents that made us suffer a bit from it and it's hard not to look back into the past. Do look back if you want to, but don't forget to keep moving forward and make a change, a change that you will enjoy and love. If you're a person like me, who puts other people first, it's time to sit down and think about yourself. Sit down and think about what makes you happy, what makes you the best of you, not other people. No, it is not selfish. That's what I thought at first, we were all taught to always think of other people in all situations, but we tend to exclude ourselves. Never ever exclude. You deserve the best too. Good job at acknowledging you're not okay, good job at acknowledging you need help. Remember, it won't always be this way. Good luck and reach out, to me, to loved ones, to anyone.
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| I am a Capricorn. Cheers to that. |
2. Talk to someone. You don't need someone to tell you what to do. Sometimes you just need someone who listens. Someone who listens to you when you try to put your thoughts into words, and "see" it coming out from your mouth. However, do understand, what kind of social context you're in. Growing up in a typical Chinese household/community where people have literally 0 knowledge of mental health, please do understand that sometimes not everyone understands what you're feeling, not everyone knows how to deal with someone coming forward to them and talking about mental health, acknowledge this as well. Just tell them if you want advice or you want them to just listen. I believed your loved ones or the listener you chose is happy enough to try and understand.
3. Understand what's happening. Start by understanding more about your problems, get to know them. Why are you feeling this way? Does anything trigger you? Is there anything you can change to make yourself feel better? For me, social media is hella toxic. I enjoy sharing, but I hate the negativity that it brings me (sometimes it is not other people, it is me, social media is not a place for weak people like me). If someone, something, triggers you, makes you unhappy, or you think following too much content is making your life miserable. Do it, unfollow, block, do whatever you want, take care of yourself like you should. I don't give a damn about what you think about me, I'm unhappy and I'm blocking. You have the right to avoid and get rid of the things that are giving you problems. Cleanse your life and your soul. There are also times where there's nothing that triggers you, it just happens. That's me, most of the time. Breathe. Try the suggestions I mentioned, in this post. Try your best to explore and learn how to control.
4. Enjoy the journey of exploring self-care. Start doing things YOU love for yourself or explore things that you always wanted to try. If you tried, and you don't enjoy them, it's fine, at least now you know there's something that you dislike doing. I personally tried a lot of different things throughout my journey, I picked up things that I always loved doing and has been doing it since. I read a book, and it turns into more books. I started with this blog, it went from 7 views to now a thousand views. It took me 3 months to explore and found things I love. Definitely, I found things that I dislike doing as well.
Try these steps and learn to control them. Still not feeling good?
5. Seek for professional help. This is where your extra push comes in. (this is where MY extra push comes in). My symptoms are severe and out of control and I acknowledge that I need more help than that. If you're like me, great job on acknowledging it, don't freak out don't worry, IT'S OKAY. Think of it this way, we are all different and we are all good at something, and mental health it just not your thing. You're not good at it and you're not knowledgable enough to deal with your current problems. Therefore, seek help from a professional. Ironically, who cares if you're a psychology student like me. The best I can do is to acknowledge that I need help (kudos to me and you!). I'm not a certified professional, that's why I needed help, and I got my extra push, more knowledge, and more help on learning how to control. You're not trying to get rid of something that's normal and human, you're just on a journey learning how to control it.
It is not your fault that you're not feeling your best, but it is your responsibility to take care of yourself, physically and mentally. Don't point fingers, don't blame. Look forward, and see what you can do to feel good again. I understand that we all have problems, we all have bad incidents that made us suffer a bit from it and it's hard not to look back into the past. Do look back if you want to, but don't forget to keep moving forward and make a change, a change that you will enjoy and love. If you're a person like me, who puts other people first, it's time to sit down and think about yourself. Sit down and think about what makes you happy, what makes you the best of you, not other people. No, it is not selfish. That's what I thought at first, we were all taught to always think of other people in all situations, but we tend to exclude ourselves. Never ever exclude. You deserve the best too. Good job at acknowledging you're not okay, good job at acknowledging you need help. Remember, it won't always be this way. Good luck and reach out, to me, to loved ones, to anyone.
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